I’ve been dating this girl for awhile, who I was friends with before we started dating. Now, I really want to break up with this girl. We’re just not clicking the way I want it to, but she’s still a wonderful person. How do I break the news to her and not hurt her feelings?
Worried about her in Granite City
Relationships are tricky and a lot of work, so they must be entered with this knowledge: relationships might or might not work out, so is this relationship worth trying it out? Especially if you’re already friends. Worried, you already know her feelings are going to be hurt by the breakup at least a little; however, it will be less painful for both of you if you end it sooner rather than later. Tell her that you feel like you both made a mistake when you went from friendship to dating. Tell her you care for her and respect her enough to want what’s best for her. You should let her decide if she wants to remain friends or end the relationship altogether.
My roommate let her sister stay with us for a short time, and it’s been a month already. She brought two dogs and a wild daughter with her, and we live in a small two-bedroom flat. It’s too crowded, and she doesn’t pay anything.
Frustrated in Mitchell
Although you didn’t ask a question here, I will definitely give you some advice for your situation. First, if you’re on the lease and your roommate’s visitor is not on the lease, then you should ask your roommate to give her visitor a time frame to move out of the apartment or pay rent. If you’re not on the lease, and your roommate’s the only one on the lease and she refuses to address your concerns with her visitor, then you should consider moving out of the apartment into your own place. You have to be in charge of your own happiness by choosing to live in a place that makes you feel safe, secure and happy.
EDITOR’S NOTE: Statements and opinions expressed in this column are not necessarily those of AdVantage News. LeLo is not a licensed therapist and this column should be used for entertainment purposes only.
In her late 40s now, LeLo gives countless hours of advice to friends and friends of friends in times of need. As a local longtime resident of Granite City, she is happy to give you advice you are seeking in all areas of your life. All you have to do is write her and ask her what is bothering you.