This week’s article is written by Gwen Solomon, a member of Godfrey First United Methodist Church, 1100 Airport Road.
I am a yes-aholic. I have been one for the majority of my life. I often struggle with the ability to articulate one tiny word — “no” — but I know that I am not alone. My yes-aholic tendencies have created a hectic busyness in my life that, many times, leaves me with lots of stress, little time to myself, and strain on my family. Can you relate? If your life is too “busy,” it may be the result of being a yes-aholic.
So how do you “fix” being a yes-aholic? Instead of saying “yes” right away, try responding with “Can I get back to you on that?” or “Let me pray about that first.” That will give you time to ask yourself three very important questions: 1) Why do I want to say yes to this? (Does it make me happy? Am I trying to please others? Am I looking for a pat on the back?) 2) What am I saying “no” to in order to say “yes” to this? (Time with family? Time for God? A needed nap?) 3) What is the worst thing that could happen if I say no? (You mean the world’s not going to end? What?) There are many great opportunities out there for serving or connecting with others, but I am learning that I don’t have to do them all; that’s not who or what God created me to be. In fact, there may be times I rob someone else of an opportunity for joy because I couldn’t (or wouldn’t) say no. It’s OK to say “no” sometimes — even to worthwhile things; I’m still working on learning that. So, to my fellow yes-aholics (I know you’re out there!), know that saying “no” may just open up a whole new world of “yes” that you’ve never experienced before.